Have You Hugged A Kid Today?
Is this truly a problem with gun control or is this more an issue of how we are raising our kids today? We have a generation of hurting teenagers that are trying to get our attention. Are we listening yet? If you are focusing on gun control I might guess you are still missing the point. We have a generation killing themselves and others- why?
Let’s look to the beginning of their young lives, 15 to 20 years ago. They were the very beginning of the attachment parenting trend in the early 2000’s so they probably got a lot of early contact. But they were also born into a time when electronic access was a top money maker for corporate America and plenty of marketing was focused on the purchasing habits of this generations parents. The adults bought in and found the pay off was quiet busy kids, so they could do what they wanted without much guilt. We go from human contact during infancy, to introduction of electronics at toddlers and preschool, which decreased the human interactions. Human interactions help create self-regulatory capacities - self control among other things. When the smart phone was introduced in 2005, this generation often received phones from their parents in elementary school or middle school- and they continued their electronic connection. With the development of the adolescent brain the natural weaknesses in the brain stem and limbic system cause emotional over reaction to perceived rejection. And electronic media became an anonymous platform to cruelty, a means to guarantee they were not the weakest link by creating and focusing on other weaker links. So we have a generation that is more connected to their electronics than to others, their parents and other safe adults, and don’t have the neurological capacity to realize what they are doing to others or believing about themselves. All they are really focusing on is what others think of them, what others are saying about them, and how they can change it. And we wonder why we have a problem.
So we have kids that are physically isolated, with low self regulatory skills, who are perseverated on social image. Plus they are disconnected from healthy adult and other connection. Think of the Russian orphanages of the past, infants left in cribs untouched. What has been the outcome for many of those children? Deep psychological disturbances. Think of nursing care facilities that lack enough man power, what is the outcome of the patients? Physical deterioration. Humans need humans- physically.
I saw an interview by a local news show hosted by Kyle Clark. He did an interview with a man that was reflecting on his difficult adolescence and his bottom line statement that I came away with was: We Need To Love. So I repeat myself: Have you hugged A kid today? It may be that simple.
Please spread the idea, social media is this generations connection. If we start hugging them, and they start hugging others, maybe that lonely hurting child that has harmful plans will see they have value and this is just a small period of their life.